The team at Staying Home Leaving Violence, helped Mary to start living a happy and violent free life….
Mary* is a mum of four children, the sole provider for her family. Her ex-husband was not contributing to the upkeep of the children or towards the rent even though he had a job. He was very abusive towards Mary and sometimes towards the children. Mary was confused about what to do, wanting to keep her family together for the sake of the children. She was also concerned about the shame and stigma associated with separation in her community.
The abuse escalated from emotional and psychological to physical abuse and Mary was still not willing to break up the family. Bankstown Domestic Violence Service (BDVS) kept working with Mary assuring her that the service would always be supportive of whatever decision she made with an emphasis on her safety and the safety of the children.
Sexual abuse was added to the list of what she was barely coping with, Mary decided to take the bold step of calling the police and making a report. Staying Home Leaving Violence (SHLV) supported Mary through the process of changing her circumstances. An interim AVO was in place for a few months and Mary was then issued a Subpoena to appear in court. She was very scared and anxious about the court proceedings and the thought of seeing her husband at the court. SHLV prepared Mary for her court appearance with information, role playing and attended court to support her.
The court granted Mary Final Orders excluding her ex-husband from the home. Mary was so happy to start living a happy and violent free life with her children again. She is in the process of relocating to help her and her children feel safer.
* Names have been changed to protect our clients’ privacy